One of the biggest challenges I come across are clients who are unable to make to the necessary personal changes to achieve success. For example some questions I have recently encountered include: Why can’t I get into an exercise routine before work? How can I get my high-priority work done before I check my email? Why am I so bad at changing?
Even the most successful people can get stuck and lose hope during the process of changing behaviours. As a coach, I see this happen when clients become so fixated on specific tactics, for example sticking to a ‘rule’ that they never check email before 10 am, that they lose sight of the fact that many methods could lead to achieving their larger strategic goals.
Habit change takes discipline, patience, and practice. However, it should not feel like you’re constantly trying to force yourself to do something you really don’t want to do. That’s unsustainable. To make new habits stick, they must work with the reality of who you are and what’s best for you.
To identify tactics that will actually work for you and keep your focus on your big goals, start by determining where you’re stuck. Identify a few areas where you’ve seen little or no behavioural change despite your best efforts, for example, blocking out big time chunks for major projects or going to the gym first thing in the morning. Then zoom out to determine your real goal. Why was this activity important to you in the first place? Maybe you want to feel like you’re finishing priority tasks, or have a healthier, more physically active life.
Now brainstorm other tactics you could use to achieve those goals. If you’ve never managed to block out an entire day for your key projects, try finding two half-days instead. If you hate the gym or aren’t a morning person, don’t expect yourself to go there first thing in the morning! Instead, consider options like a bike ride after work or exercises you can do at home before bed. Identify activities that align with your natural style.
You may need to try out a few different tactics until you discover when you can be most consistently effective. Test one of your hypotheses each week. For instance, you could try going for a bike ride after work for one week, and then the next week see if you can do exercises at home before bed. Observe what seems to fit most naturally with your schedule and motivation levels. Arrange your day in different ways and see what produces the best results. Once you’ve identified something that works, guard that time other activities.
If you need accountability, get it. Top performers embrace this reality and surround themselves with strong teammates and coaches. They know that these individuals will help shore up any weaknesses and allow them to fully use their strengths.
After trying this if there still tasks that you really struggle to do, delegate them or outsource them. It’s better not spending energy forcing yourself to do what other people can do for you. Save that effort for activities you can’t transfer to anyone else. Make a list of activities that you tend to fall behind on, such as expenses, setting up meetings, or updating tracking documents. Then, see if you can find someone within your company, an outside contractor, or a technology tool that could take these items off your list.
By staying focused on the goal and experimenting with tactics, I’ve seen people who have never kept routines start to make progress on priority projects, get on top of e-mail, and accomplish all sorts of other goals. Keep these principles in mind, and you can achieve lasting behavioural change.
